The February edition of UK Cosmo explores four common fantasies women think about when what you’re doing in bed just isn’t cutting it.
Our poll revealed that eight of out of 10 of you use fantasies to help reach orgasm. But what do your erotic thoughts really mean?
Most of the advice is the normal, tame bread and butter of Cosmo, but one of the fantasies discussed takes a very bad turn.
Sex is like breakfast — cereal monogamy gets very samey. [Nevermind that the pun is referencing serial monogamy, the practice of having a series of wives.] But throw in a banana or a soft, fuzzy peach and suddenly it seems mouthwateringly delicious. Fruity fantasies about sex with more than one paerson — male or female – are very common and merely indicate a love of new experiences, not that you want a three-in-a-bed romp. For example, research from the University of Toroonto showed that women were notably more aroused when shown footage of a nake woman doing a workout than when they saw naked men doing yoga. It doesn’t mean they’re lesbians. “Many women are turned on by the idea of exploring another woman’s body, and doing it in the company of her own boyfriend makes it less intimidating and an erotic experience for everyone,” says Sadie.
To avoid inviting the green-eyed monster to join you between the sheets, take things slowly. “Mention that you had an erotic dream involving another man or woman — preferably not someone you know – and watch his response,” says Ian. “If he seems into it, feed him some more details.” Then try introducing it in the bedroom. By ‘it’ we mean the idea, not an actual person. [...] “Talk about what you’d do to the other person if they were in bed with you,” Sadie. “That can be incredibly erotic without the risks associated with bringing a third person into your bed.”
So basically this is going to go one of two ways. Either, you tell your boyfriend you want to bring another man into bed with you, and you end up with an ex-boyfriend shaped hole in the wall where he ran through it to get away from you, or you tell him you want to bring another girl into bed but refuse to do it, and end up with a boyfriend cheating on you because you keep talking about how great being with another woman would be.